Alright, I am in desperate need for some advise. For any of you who know Kaden knows that he is a very spirited child. He is constantly moving and is always finding something to get into. I don't mind him being spirited, he is so dang cute and I love watching him, my problem is because he is so spirited and doesn't want to miss a thing, I have problems getting him to sleep. I think I have tried just about everything, and don't think I'm a horrible parent, but I've even given him dimatap or triaminic just to try and get him to sleep. Nothing works. When Kaden gets sleepy, he gets a little bit more... spirited, and it makes it a lot harder to get him down. Our routine usually is put him in the bath, either read to him (which sometimes makes him a little more rambunctious) or let him watch about 20-30 min of a movie while he calms down, then we go lay in his bed with him. Now here's the thing, laying in bed with him would be a bad thing, but if we don't then he gets out of bed and plays with his toys or looks out the window or just finds something to do to keep him awake. It doesn't matter what time we lay down in bed with him, it will take him anywhere from 1-2 hours before he'll fall asleep, unless it's anytime after 11pm. One time we put him in his room and left him there while we went to bed just to see if he'd fall asleep on his own. I think it was one in the morning when I went in there to check on him and he was up playing with his toys with the light on. He does the same thing with naps, I have to lay there by him for an hour and a half while I try to get him down. This kid hates to sleep.
Getting Kaden to sleep isn't the only problem, the other problem is getting him to stay asleep. It doesn't matter what we have done that day, whether he had a full day of playing or just sat around and did nothing all day, he will not sleep through the night. He doesn't wake up crying, which is nice, he gets up very quietly and sneaks into to bed with Dan and I. We don't even notice him till like 4 in the morning when we're too tired to do anything about it. I think he's slept in his own bed, all night long, once since Lincoln was born.
I was looking on the Internet to see if I could find anything and the only stuff I could find is you need to reason with your child, bribe them. There are all the success stories on how these parents were able to bribe their 2 year old with candy if they would stay in their own bed all night. There is no reasoning with Kaden, maybe in a year, but I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. Taking 3 hours out of my day just to try and get my child to sleep is starting to get very waring on me.
So sorry to go on and on, but I am out of ideas. If anyone has any advise or know of anything that I can do with Kaden, because he needs the sleep just as bad as Dan and I do, please let me know. Thanks for reading.
3 days ago
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I wish I had advice for you, but I obviously am not a parent. I hope you can figure it out, though!
That is so hard. I have a niece, Cadence (it has to be the name) who is the same way. My brother still has her sleeping in her crib at 3!!! She knows how to get out but for some odd reason she has decided to stay in it. As for the playing with toys, my very clam child does the same thing. She will quietly play with toys in her room for 3 hours before falling asleep. The only thing that has help us with that is locking all of her toys in the closet or taking them out of her room. Its a huge hassle but it was so worth her falling asleep. Even if you have to strip his room down to nothing but a bed. As for the sleeping in bed with you, you might try making him a little mattress bed on the floor. That way if he gets scared or wants to be in your room then he has a little place to sleep. Good luck! That is so hard, especially with a new baby!
Gosh that is so hard, Im sorry you have to deal with that. My advice would be to take him to his doctor and talk to him/her about it. There could be something going on that makes him not want to sleep. I know ADHD runs in my husband's side of the family so we have to get our kids checked for it. Not sure if something like that effects sleep though. Good luck, I hope the sleepless nights end soon!
I don't know how to get him to sleep, but my friend puts a child proof thing on the door handle then her little boy can't get out of the room. He has to ask to get up. I don't know, but it does sound hard. i'm sorry.
Hello Celeste...I am not sure what to advise you because we have been blessed with a pretty good sleeper...but, I love to watch the show Super Nanny - have you ever watched it? She has wonderful advice as far as these sorts of things...I am sure there is a book or maybe even something online that could offer words of wisdom. I have seen her work miracles with many action-packed little people. According to her, consistency is the key and being firm...Good luck!
I have to say that with my first we would take away treats if she didn't sleep in her bed, she liked to sleep on the couch, cuz she knew she couldnt sleep in our room. But if you don't think reasoning will work, you will be surprised what they understand cuz I do reason with my barely turned 2 yr old. But I liked the previous comment of putting a bed next to your bed for him, I saw something like that on super nanny, then she slowly moved it away till they were finally in their own room. I just moved my 2 yr old to a bed, and we put up a baby gate at his door so that he can't come out, plus he only gets a passy at night and I tell him that if he comes out I will take it... and you have to do it. I had to do it once, he cried, but he fell asleep. But really persistance is the key. Do your bed time rutine and put him in bed, if he comes out put him back and just keep doing it (that's on super nanny.) I hope any of this advice helps. Good luck friend!
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